6 Ways to Help Your Husband Be the Spiritual Leader in Your Home

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1. Watch, read, and share God’s truth with our husbands to encourage their faith.

As wives and in our daily, everyday experiences with our husbands, we have the opportunity to do what Ephesians 5:19 urges: “Speaking to one another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit. Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord.”

We, as wives, have a front-row seat to cheer our husbands on in their faith. Even if at times we don’t think so, or believe it, we are in a highly influential position to share God’s truth with him by living it out genuinely in our own lives.

2. Show our husbands godly respect, always keeping the truth of God’s Word in front of us.

Respect is a key to our husband’s heart and to him fulfilling his God-ordained role as the spiritual leader in our homes.

We are to respect our husbands even if we don’t think they deserve it because respecting them is respecting God. Rather than looking at their human frailties and faults, we can choose to do what honors Him over following our own hesitations and reasoning.

As Ephesians 5:23 instructs, “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”

Even if it seems like our husbands are falling short in loving us, we want to obey God regardless and leave it in His hands to transform them. When we do, God moves within our husbands’ hearts to lead them to love us like Jesus loves the Church.

3. Pray for our husbands on a daily basis.

Colossians 4:2 leads us to, “Devote yourselves to prayer, being watchful and thankful.”

Daily, hourly, minute by minute, we can devote ourselves to praying for our husbands, trusting, waiting, and watching with grateful hearts for God to move in their lives.

4. Pray with our husbands. 

We can initiate a time to pray together with our husbands. If not every day, at least once a week, so that they can hear our hearts and we can hear theirs, helping us know how to pray effectively for them.

James 5:16 describes the benefits of doing so.
“Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.”

Praying with our husbands leads to God moving in powerful ways in our marriages, families, and our lives.

5. Invite our husbands to share in our spiritual disciplines.

We can initiate and invite our husbands to participate with us in spiritual practices such as Bible study, fasting, and communion.

Sharing biblical disciplines helps to draw us closer to God and closer together as a couple.

6. Live out our faith before them. 

1 Peter 3:1-6 encourages wives and gives a powerful example of the spiritual impact they can have on their husbands when they live out their faith before them in their own homes.

“Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.”

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